Relationships

Conflict: An opportunity to grow

Conflict is inevitable, but combat is optional~ Max Lucade I find it interesting that almost every person I have ever encountered says "I don't like conflict" as if they are the only ones who feel that way.  Truly, conflict is nothing we intentionally seek, even if it appears that way at times.  Conflict occurs when [...]

By | April 20th, 2015|Communication, Empowerment, Inspiration, Relationships|1 Comment

Who Do I Trust?

   Trust is the greatest gift you can offer a relationship.  The dictionary says trust is: the reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, etc., of a person or thing; confidence. Trust is something we most frequently give freely.  I trusted teachers to teach my kids.  I trusted my friend to be there when I [...]

By | November 12th, 2014|All Blogs, Empowerment, Inspiration, Relationships|0 Comments

Are you expressing the real you?

Are you expressing the real you? What does authenticity mean to you? Is it about always telling the truth? Can you honestly say you’ve never said a ‘white lie’ to protect someone’s feelings? Or even to protect yourself? Authenticity is not simply about telling the truth, it is about fully expressing yourself in a real and honest way.  It’s about sharing with others what you feel and think, not from a place of judgement but from of acceptance and love. Halloween is a perfect time to talk about what makes you,  you! As children we had fun dressing up and becoming something other than who we were,  playing make believe and imagining different lives.  As adults we may still be trying to figure ourselves out. There are many books, programs, and workshops that we may participate in order to delve into the psyche and define ourselves authentically. And many of us do. I love Mike Robins and his message in his book “Be Yourself, every one else is already taken.” […]

By | October 30th, 2013|All Blogs, Empowerment, Inspiration, Relationships|0 Comments

What does it mean to “love yourself”?

What does it mean to “love yourself”? We all know that to truly be able to love another we have to be able to love ourselves.  I know I’ve heard that all my life and I’ve also shared that with those that I counsel.  Still, people ask… What does that look like, sound like, feel like? Most people feel that caring for themselves is ‘selfish’.  Yet not caring for yourself causes you to feel ‘self-less’. And if you are self-less then who are you? Of course there are times when we act on the behalf of another and not self.  Like when we put the needs of our children before our own.  But that is not something we can do every minute of every day. Our brains simply won’t let that happen. The mind is an amazing thing.  It can not NOT protect us. Therefore, if we always act from a self-less place, we will unconsciously expect someone ‘out there’ to act on our behalf. Oops! That’s what we call an expectation.  And those don’t usually work out too well. But when we truly love ourselves, honor our needs, care for our bodies, and are gentle with our feelings… […]

By | October 22nd, 2013|All Blogs, Empowerment, Inspiration, Relationships|1 Comment

How to empower yourself and your senior loved one

How to empower yourself and your senior This week I want to share with you an interview I did with Susan Baida of eCare Diary on empowering you and your senior loved one.  It is full of  information about how to plan for the aging process and how to have that all important conversation with your parents. Whether a parent, grandparent, aunt, uncle or neighbor and friend, we all know and love a senior. From them we learn a lot about life, gain wisdom, insights, and understand our history.  But when it comes time to help them in their latter years, we all feel a loss of power of some kind. For the Senior it is a loss of control. A feeling of being dependent on someone else just to maintain their daily activity. Because of that most seniors resent and resist any help from us For adult children it is a loss of peace of mind. Not knowing what or how to be the best service to our loved one. Because we just want them to be safe but we don’t really know what they want. […]

By | October 15th, 2013|All Blogs, Caregiving, Communication, Empowerment, Inspiration, Relationships|1 Comment

How old do you have to be to do what you want?

How old do you have to be to do what you want? Isn’t that a good question!!  It’s a question my senior clients often asked when their adult children were trying to force some activity on them. We look at our parents aging and want to keep them active, vital, and engaged. We unconsciously believe that their busyness will keep them young and with us longer. We spend so much time doing things we really don’t want to do but that we believe is either important, or needed, or expected. And we’ve come to accept that all the ‘doing’ is what life is about. So it’s not surprising that we want the same from our parents.  […]

By | September 29th, 2013|Caregiving, Empowerment, Relationships|0 Comments

How to Overcome Criticism

This morning I woke as usual, made myself a cup of  coffee, and sat at my desk ready to begin my day.  First thing, look at my calendar, write out my goals for the day, and check my emails.  Nothing unusual. Except this morning the first two emails I opened were suggestions from friends who had something to say about something I did. Only it didn’t feel like a suggestion.  It felt like criticism! OUCH. […]

By | September 10th, 2012|All Blogs, Communication, Empowerment, Relationships|0 Comments